I'll tell you what. I will dislike another part of my body. No matter how much I weigh, how much I lose, how little I eat, how much I exercise, there will always be something. And at some point I will eventually hyper-focus on something I can't do a damn thing about. First my arms, then my legs, then my tummy, then my thighs. Next I will criticize my face and all it's permanent flaws. It's never ending. And it is also not the real problem. There is something much deeper. My job at this point is to notice it's happening and try to figure out what the real issue is. When I go down the road of physical self abuse, there is always, ALWAYS, something else going on. This is also where people who do not suffer with Eating Disorders or Body Dysmorphic Disorders get the wrong idea. The issue is not about vanity, (and I was called "vain" this week) it's about other stuff. Deeper, not so superficial crap. This is just how it manifests itself. Perhaps I am struggling with fear, shame, sadness, anger, stress, boredom, and or none of the above! My brain tries to protect me from looking at the uncomfortable or painful issues. After all, it's easier to fix my arms right?
So back to the job at hand. What's going on in life that has me so focused on my body, and not looking into my feelings? I realized that the last week or two there has been a lot going on around me. I have taken on too much emotionally. But then again, that's who I am and what I do. I crave that connection with people during times of stress. But how do I take care of myself in the midst of chaos? How do I take a step back? What if I don't want to? What if my compassion fatigue sets in again and I just turn apathetic? That could happen if I don't remember that I come first. My world does revolve around me. My well being and healthy state of mind have to comes first to me. I cannot be the effective and compassionate person I want to be if I am not these things to myself first. I need to give myself the oxygen before I can help anyone else. This is very difficult for me to actually put into place. I feel like I always have to give, give, give. Perhaps I need to give to myself too.
As I look at this deeper and try to find the reasons why I start hating on my body I take a deep, patient breath. I try to remind myself that I am lucky I have my arms. I don't like to look at them. But I am reminded to think of all the things they do for me. They carry my children. They hold on to my daughter as she tries to ride her bike. They wrap around my kitty while I nap. They embrace my best friends genuinely. They carry trays off food to people in need during a disaster. They're not beautiful, but they are perfect for me. Who knows how long I will be able to have them, or any other part of my body for that matter. They don't need to be corrected. Just respected. I have other things to work on.
Live on!
-Kristy
by Leonardo Da Vinci
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